Imperfectly Perfect… Or Is It Perfectly Imperfect?

I’ve been listening to a book on Audible lately— “How to Be an Imperfectionist” by Stephen Guise. I don’t think it’s any secret that I’m a perfectionist. In fact, I’ve posted about it previously… here. I’m not perfect. No one is! You know that; I know that. But at the root of perfectionism is the fear of failure— fear that the world will confirm our deepest, darkest fears that we aren’t good enough.

But we CANNOT let it paralyze us. We can’t let the fear of being less-than-perfect prevent us from pursuing our dreams, chasing our ambitions, and putting things out (however imperfect they may be) into the world. I used to tell myself that my perfection was an asset that helped me succeed. Of course, the desire to do things as best as possible has helped me become the successful person I am today. But… it’s also held me back at times too.

I recently released an e-book. I wrote it in under a month. It’s not perfect by any means. I’m sure there are typos. I wish it were available in print. Bottom line, it’s not perfect… but it IS something. And that is a huge, huge accomplishment. How many people can say that? I could have let the fact that I wouldn’t have enough time to “perfect” it hold me back from putting it out there into the world… but I didn’t. I did it. And, for that, I’m proud— as much as I’m proud for having written the book in and of itself.

I’m trying to apply my newly-found imperfection to other endeavors as well. I’ve gotten so many questions about why I don’t post more videos, and— trust me, I’d love to!— but the fact that I don’t have a “good enough” video camera or that I’m a bit of a techno-boob when it comes to video editing… has held me back from posting all of the nutrition advice & training videos that I’d like. Well… no more! My iPhone camera might not be the best… but it’s better than doing nothing! That is my promise to you.

Somehow, someway… I will perfect this imperfectionist thing! 🙂


Muddy Melissa

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  1. Stacy Shaneyfelt01 Aug 2016

    Your work is PERFECT to us, your avid fans! Your reflection today reminded me of a great book to recommend and quote: “Understanding the difference between healthy striving and perfectionism is critical to laying down the shield and picking up your life. Research shows that perfectionism hampers success. In fact, it’s often the path to depression, anxiety, addiction, and life paralysis.”
    ― Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are

    1. muddymelissa@gmail.comAuthor02 Aug 2016

      That is EXACTLY the sentiment I’m trying to live my life by! I want my work to be as good as possible, sure— but in the past I’ve let it hold me back from even starting certain projects because I didn’t want to settle for anything less than “the best.” But that’s not how life works! We all have to start somewhere… anywhere! I preach the same thing to my clients, so what kind I person would I be if I weren’t willing to do the same when it comes to myself? My book & my blog & my videos may not be perfect… but they are a reflection of me… which I think is pretty darn cool! 🙂

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